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Mark Jorgensen and our staff are delighted that you are interested in finding recovery from the effects of a personal or loved ones’ pornography addiction in St. George, Utah. We have identified some common questions and answers for you to review and consider as you create a personal action plan. Please feel free to call us if you have additional questions or would like to discuss the recovery program offered at Desert Solace (435) 817-1351.

How do I know if I am (or my loved one is) addicted to sexual behavior?
Why should I consider residential treatment for addiction to pornography or other unhealthy sexual behavior?
What should I bring?
What should I not bring?
Will I be allowed to smoke?
What are the curfew rules?
What about food/meals?
How do I send/receive mail and packages?
What are the personal phone call guidelines?
When can I have visitors?
How often will I see a doctor?
Can I have my car?
How do I know if I am (or my loved one is) addicted to sexual behavior?

Patrick Carnes, PhD, generally considered to be the world’s foremost authority on sexual addiction, developed the following questionnaire, known by the acronym PATHOS:

  • Preoccupied. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
  • Ashamed. Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?
  • Treatment. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?
  • Hurt. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?
  • Out of Control. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?
  • Sad. When you act out sexually, do you feel depressed afterwards?

A positive response to just one would indicate a need for additional assessment – seek consultation with a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). Two or more positive responses indicate sexual addiction.

Why should I consider residential treatment for addiction to pornography or other unhealthy sexual behavior?

Residential treatment has long been a crucial, if not essential, option for those struggling to overcome substance addiction. A controlled living arrangement allows the addict to remove himself from the environment which created the addiction an allowed it to flourish. Residential treatment also allows the body to detoxify from the effects of addiction. 

The same principle applies to those suffering from sexual addictions and compulsions. By removing himself from a sexually permissive and/or triggering environment and gaining sexual sobriety, the addict is able to “detox” from the effects of the rush of endorphins created by acting out sexually. Once sobriety is established and the brain has settled down (usually about one month), the addict can begin the work of identifying and correcting the thought patterns and behaviors that led to the addiction in the first place.

What should I bring?
  • Seasonally appropriate casual clothes (no drug/alcohol, inappropriate advertisement, motorcycle, food, gambling or sex related slogans, etc)
  • Workout clothes
  • Hiking boots and/or athletic shoes
  • Hat
  • Rain Jacket (something waterproof)
  • Personal Items (Supply for 90 Days)
  • Cash to purchase personal items to be used during treatment. Amounts in excess of $50 will be locked up in nurse’s station.
  • Toiletries: soap, deodorant, shaving cream, lotion, personal hygiene products, sunscreen, etc. (All toiletry items must be non-alcohol based.)
  • Prescription and unopened over-the-counter medications such as Tylenol, Ibuprofen, Maalox and Nicotine replacement therapies. (All medications will be kept under lock in the nurse’s station.)
  • Stationary, Stamps, Writing Utensils, Journal, Notepads
  • Alarm Clock
  • Long Distance Calling Card (specific for land lines)
  • Laundry Detergent, no bleach
  • Bed Linens for twin size bed – sheets, blanket, comforter, pillows
  • Towels
  • Cell Phones (permitted for travel; otherwise, they are secured in the nurse’s station)
  • List of important phone numbers
  • Legal documents if there are legal issues
What should I not bring?
  • Anything you would hate to lose
  • Pagers
  • Cameras
  • Computer (laptops, Nook, Kindle, iPad or any WiFi enabled device)
  • VCR/DVD Players/Video Games
  • Weapons – (guns, tasers, tear gas or any item that may be used as a weapon)
  • Illegal substance of any kind
  • Cigarettes, chewing tobacco, nicotine inhalers, nicotine gum (except as prescribed by a physician)
  • Any item connected to your addiction: pornography, suggestive pictures, massage devices, etc.
  • Laxatives, diet pills, dietary or nutritional supplements (except as prescribed by a physician)
  • Aerosols – hair spray, deodorants, etc.
  • Hair/Personal Products containing alcohol (or any product containing alcohol)
  • Products containing caffeine
  • Perfumes/colognes
  • Self tanner
  • Expensive items
  • Food and drink
Will I be allowed to smoke?

No. Desert Solace prohibits tobacco use in or on any of its facilities or grounds

What are the curfew rules?

10:00 p.m. daily

What about food/meals?

3 meals a day with snacks are provided

How do I send/receive mail and packages?

Mail can be sent to and from Desert Solace. Packages will be observed when opened and items not allowed will be removed. Mailing address is:

Desert Solace
1239 West 4200 North
St. George, UT 84770

Please do not give address to affair partners or others with whom acting out has occurred; correspondence is not permitted.

What are the personal phone call guidelines?

A phone call is allowed at admittance to inform family of arrival. Phone calls are allowed with therapeutic purpose and supervision. If the resident has small children, phone contact may be allowed with staff approval.

When can I have visitors?

Visitors are not allowed prior to Family Week, and thereafter with staff approval. Visiting hours: Saturday and Sunday 1:00 p.m.-5:00 p.m. (on campus only).

How often will I see a doctor?

Each resident will receive a psychiatric and medical evaluation upon admission. If necessary, a follow-up visit will be provided to monitor any treatment prescribed. Additional visits, if needed, are the responsibility of the resident, though Desert Solace will be happy to schedule appointments and arrange transportation.

Can I have my car?

No, transportation is provided