If you have a family member who is addicted to pornography, our hearts go out to you. Watching someone you love grapple with such an addiction is heartbreaking, frustrating, and infuriating. During this time of immense pain and confusion, know that you are not alone and hope is possible.
First, we ask you to keep in mind that the addiction is not a reflection on you. Many family members struggle with feelings of guilt and inadequacy, thinking they somehow caused the addiction or failed to prevent it. Pornography addiction is an alluring and narrow path meant to isolate users from friends and family; it is not a group effort.
Second, we remind you that your decision to stay by your loved one’s side is one that only you can make, and we do not judge your actions. Sometimes, when an addict has given up on life and healing, relatives find it necessary to leave in order to preserve and protect the remaining family. Others may choose to stay in the hope that their loved one will overcome the addiction and their relationship will strengthen—which, oftentimes, is the case.
Finally, we offer our services to help your loved one find direction and healing. Our program invites the involvement of family to combat the secrecy and isolation of pornography use. Your role is not to “fix” your loved one, but to show you love them and support their decision to seek help.
At Desert Solace, we welcome the support family members can provide for their loved ones. Our program offers family weekend to relatives who want to be involved in the healing process. If you have questions about your loved one’s pornography addiction and how our program can help, please give us a call at 435-228-5011 and find the peace you need.